Domestic Violence


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O‘ahu 808.841.0822
East Hawai‘i Island 808.959.8864
West Hawai‘i Island 808.322.7233
Kaua‘i (YWCA) 808.245.6362
Maui (Women Helping Women) 808.579.9581
Moloka‘i (Molokai Community Service Council) 808.567.6888

Crisis Mobile Outreach – All Islands 800.753.6879
Sexual Assault Center – Maui 808.873.8624



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What is Domestic Violence?
Indicators of Danger
How to protect yourself from abuser?
24-Hour Domestic Abuse Hotline Numbers
Impact of Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over the other intimate partner. Domestic violence occurs when batterer/abuser uses physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, emotional, sexual and/or economic abuse to control and severely compromises victim’s autonomy.

Domestic violence can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality.
There are five types of domestic abuse:
• Physical Abuse
• Sexual Abuse
• Psychological and Emotional Abuse
• Destruction of Property or Pets
• Financial Abuse

Visit the following websites for more on what Domestic Violence is:
The United States Department of Justice:

Indicators of Danger:

• Previous violence, escalating in frequency & intensity
• Drug/alcohol abuse
• His belief you are his only reason for living
• Threats to kill you
• Suicidal threats/attempts
• Doesn’t care if you hurt
• Violent temper with anyone
• Refuses to get help or take prescribed medication
• Threatens use of weapon/uses weapons/has weapon available
• No friends or family for support
• Says he can’t live or do anything without you
• Obsessive jealousy

How to protect yourself from your abuser? (Source: Honolulu Police Department)

1. Make a plan to keep you safe
2. Tell someone
3. Teach your family to call 911
4. Defer those who hurt you by filing for temporary restraining order (TRO). TRO forms are available on the Judiciary website, click here. TRO information Hotline: 808.538.5959

24-Hour Domestic Abuse Hotline Numbers:

Child & Family Service Domestic Violence Hotline:
O‘ahu: 808.841.0822
West Hawai‘i Island: 808.322.7233
East Hawai‘i Island: 808.959.8864

Other Domestic Violence Hotlines:

O‘ahu: 808.526.2200 (Parents And Children Together)
Kaua‘i: 808.245.6362 – (YWCA CRISIShotline)
Maui: 808.579.9581 – (Women Helping Women)
Moloka‘i: 808.567.6888 – (Molokai Community Service Council)
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474

If you are in danger, please immediately call 911.

Impact of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. Below are some of the effects domestic abuse could have among survivors of domestic violence:
• Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Increased anxiety
• Depression
• Dissociation

Children who witness abuse often believe it is normal, and often repeat the cycle of violence in their later life. They are at increased risk of developing issues in the following areas:
• Alcohol and substance abuse
• Lower self-esteem
• Decreased social competence
• Health conditions like cancer, depression, and diabetes
• Poor performance in school

Web Resources:

Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence:

Hawai‘i Says NO MORE:

Child & Family Service Healing From Trauma Programs:

Domestic Violence Action Center:

Parents And Children Together (PACT):

Legal Aid Society of Hawaii:

National Domestic Violence:

National Teen Dating Abuse:

Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:

National Center for Victims of Crime:

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: and

Futures Without Violence:

National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health:

National Network To End Domestic Violence (NNEDV):

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